When I Finally Stopped Trying to Prove Myself
For years, I was looked “successful” on the outside.
I ran a business, traveled the world as a pro athlete, and led women’s retreats in beautiful places.
I smiled. I looked confident. I made it look easy.
But behind the scenes, I was quietly asking myself the same question over and over:
“Am I actually doing enough?”
No matter how many things I checked off the list…
how many launches I executed…
how much I gave, served, and performed—
I still felt like I was falling short.
I carried this invisible pressure that if I could just “do more,”
then I’d finally feel confident.
Finally feel proud of myself.
Finally feel like I had made it.
But confidence, as it turns out, doesn’t come when you hit a number.
It comes when you stop trying to earn your worth and start choosing to believe it.
A Moment I’ll Never Forget
I remember standing in my office one morning—still in pajamas, laptop open, Instagram feed scrolling—and thinking:
“I’ve been running this business for almost a decade…
and I still feel like I haven’t done enough.”
I’d just launched a new collection for my swimwear brand.
It didn’t hit the numbers I wanted.
And even though I’d poured my heart into it—I felt defeated.
And ashamed.
The truth was… I was exhausted.
Exhausted from striving.
From proving.
From performing success instead of trusting it.
I broke down in tears.
My husband walked in, and I said, “I don’t think I can do this anymore. I’m tired of trying so hard”
It was a moment that invited a change.
Not because I quit—but because I realized:
This version of success wasn’t mine anymore.
I was ready for something more honest.
More embodied.
More aligned.
Seth Godin has a great saying that goes:
“The opposite of quitting is not continuing on as you are. The opposite of quitting is recommitting with passion.”
The Truth About Confidence
We’re taught to chase confidence like it’s something we win by achieving enough.
But what I’ve learned is this:
Confidence isn’t the result of doing more.
It’s the result of trusting more.
Trusting yourself when the numbers aren’t there.
Trusting your voice even if you are nervous.
Trusting your enough-ness before the world reflects it back.
That shift didn’t just change how I work.
It changed how I live.
Now, I mentor women through this exact transformation.
The shift from proving to presence.
From striving to sovereignty.
From shrinking to being seen.
If You’re In This Right Now…
If you’re secretly exhausted from trying to keep it all together…
If you’re carrying that “not enough” pressure behind your eyes…
If you’re successful on paper but quietly doubting yourself…
I want you to know this:
You are not broken.
You are not behind.
And your power doesn’t need to be proven—it needs to be remembered.
I have a few private mentoring spots open right now.
This is deep work. Nervous system work.
Confidence from the inside out.
If this post spoke to something deep inside you—if you’re craving a space where you can drop the performance, be fully seen, and rebuild your confidence from the inside out—I’d love to support you.
This is intimate, transformative work for women who are ready to stop shrinking and start living fully expressed.